Few go into a marriage with the expectation of not having sex so when things change, partners often question why things changed. Men and women get married for many reasons including security, stability, child rearing and sex is certainly one of the reasons. This is certainly a mix of both sexually dissatisfied men and women but the majority are male. There is an entire subreddit dedicated to deadbedrooms which is a support group for people who are lacking in sexual intimacy. Research shows that women’s libidos flatline when they are in a long-term relationship but the same doesn’t happen for men. As a culture and through religious ideals, we’ve decided that monogamy is the cultural norm for us. We are essentially saying that women have evolved to have multiple partners inseminate her. The sperm competition theory is the theory that sperm inseminated into a female are competing amongst each other as well as sperm which were inseminated by another male. Before we get down to the actual question, let’s do some research together. The question itself is becoming more and more common and is almost always initiated by the man. My husband said that he wants to share me, what do I do? This is a question I get pretty frequently and although it may seem alarming, it almost always comes from a good place.

When my husband told me to shush